the joy of an empty calendar
“Your calendar is a better measure of success than your bank account.”
I used to not have enough friends and meaningful hobbies to keep myself busy. So when I finally planned something, and marked it onto my calendar, it felt good. Something to do, something to look forward to.
Fast forward to today and I have made great friends and have more hobbies than I have time for. Scheduling a fun hang-out out activity with a friend isn't a rare event anymore, it's the norm. That's what I wanted and I got it.
But like with everything, once you get what you want, you want something more. Or in this case, something different.
I have transformed from someone with a strict schedule and routines to someone who just likes to go with the flow (I still have routines that I keep onto like my dear life, just less of them). So right now, having a full calendar feels like a chore. Even though the friends I've planned to see and the stuff I've planned to do are something I genuinely look forward to, it feels like a chore, because it doesn't leave me any time for the spontaneous stuff. To listen to what your body needs right now and just act on it. It doesn't leave time to just crash on the sofa all day, or call a friend for a sudden night walk.
For a while now I've felt like I need to schedule even my introvert days. That's not what I want – the problem of not having enough friends and hobbies is long gone. I don't have to plan forward too much.
Of course there are still tons of things that just have to be planned, and that's okay. But from now on I'm trying to minimize planned stuff, and maximize spontaneity. We'll see how it goes.
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